Women’s health & society
Sometimes it makes me wonder how much of our mental health is something that we are born with, develop with time, or if it has a lot to with environmental expectations & challenges.What I mean is, so much is expected from women and especially Moms. It is just human nature that we put so much pressure on ourselves, we don’t even need anyone else to put pressure on us. We think we are supposed to be perfect in every aspect. Rather than just thinking we should be great at work and making money, we also feel we should be the perfect Mom, Friend, Daughter, Cook, Housekeeper, Gardener, Shopper…you get the picture.
Compared to men we really and truly in our heart feel that we should be able to wear all of the hats and do it not only good, but GREAT, and with a smile. 
We feel like we can’t get restful sleep because our minds are wandering and we are thinking about what needs to be done. What do we do, we take something for it.
We don’t have a restful sleep so we are tired, we need energy…We take something for that.
We can’t seem to stay focused on the task at hand. Hmmm… could that be because we have so many tasks that we think we should be able to accomplish all in one day? What do we do? Take something for that, we may have ADD.
We seem to be lacking energy, not wanting to hang out with friends, want to get more sleep, just feel down. After all of the above, who wouldn’t be wanting to go to bed. We take something for that though because we believe (or are led to believe) that we should be able to do it all and still have energy, fun, focus.
Now, I am not trying to sound as though I don’t believe some people need meds to make life liveable at different times, I myself take meds.
I am just saying that medication wasn’t needed as much back in the days when we weren’t all trying to keep up with each other. Back when family was the number 1 important thing in life. Schools weren’t having to focus on death, fights, state tests. The students actually got to enjoy learning. Teachers got the opportunity to teach with excitement and through hands on learning. Schools were the safest place for some students that didn’t have any other safe place.
I say all of that because when all of that was true, Moms didn’t have to stress over all of these extras.
As though society changes Moms have more to worry about, more to remember, more to teach (especially morals and values) so that children don’t get drug under by bad messages from TV and magazines.
The more society fails us by allowing TV to show more nudity, use vulgar language and young girls clothes being made to show more skin rather than modesty, the more women have to add to their plate.
Really, who could keep up with all that we are expected to remember? It’s not even possible. We can keep calendars for ourselves, kids, spouse and with homework, nightly cooking, daily laundry, daily housework, for most of us- work and our children’s extracurricular activities there is NO way we can still have energy at the end of the day..
No energy=Stress
No energy means it’s difficult to give our spouse the attention that we long to give (and we want back). This causes stress.
All of this stress=depression or at least the blues and the longer the blues go on, the more it turns into depression.
The cycle just goes on and on.
If we could only live on a deserted island.
I know we all try and remind each other to take time for ourselves. I am trying to remember this too, but with so much to do, it feels like time is being wasted.
Do you believe you can truly be relaxed when so many things need to be finished? If so, are you one that can relax with unfinished projects, housework, etc…?
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