You Teaching You:Understanding what YOU do possess that will help you live better
You teaching You.
Okay, so that may sound a bit confusing, but let me explain. A lot of us with PMDD have been to therapy and that is great, if they understand PMDD, not so great and a huge waste of money if they don’t. What happens is they talk about our past, ask us questions about our past, you know the drill… What could have brought us to this point. It’s almost likely there’s some secret lying within us that they are going to help ‘bring’ out.
They don’t have any personal feelings about our PMDD, or at least they can’t show it, they are there to diagnose us, find out what is wrong with us, rather than RIGHT with us, or just different.
There must be something wrong with us, and it should fit into one of the categories that is in the DSM, Diagnostic & Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. The Wikipedia defines it as:
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) is published by the American Psychiatric Association and provides diagnostic criteria for mental disorders. It is used in the United States and in varying degrees around the world, by clinicians, researchers, psychiatric drug regulation agencies, health insurance companies, pharmaceutical companies and policy makers.
Of course the one problem is that a lot of psychiatrist don’t even believe it should be listed as a psychiatric disorder. We know that they most definitely don’t live with PMDD, they couldn’t and still come to that conclusion. So, they tend to shove us off into the bipolar or some other mood disorder category.
Sadly, we want answers, we want things to make sense and bipolar makes sense to a degree EXCEPT that our moods are in line with our cycles. Bipolar individuals don’t have ‘mood schedules’ like we do with PMDD. We know when it’s coming every month and we know when it will end. Also, as a Woman we know that bipolar is accepted by society, PMDD still holds a stigma.
You teaching You!
The truth is, if you have PMDD you probably do know more than most therapists when it comes to PMDD, it’s in you. We just need to help you acknowledge it, build up your self-esteem, deal with the here and now, you can’t change the past so why dwell on it. Get you un-stuck so that you can focus on:
*what you want to change within yourself
*set new reachable goals for yourself
*and decide what YOU want for YOU and get there
You teaching You!
We are all here to help you, but the best way to assure you are going to stick with a new lifestyle is by getting there with hard work. There isn’t anything harder than coming up with your own thoughts, questions, ideas about how you want to live, regardless of your PMDD. It’s very easy to sit and have someone tell you once a week what to do, or to just sit and talk to someone once a week.
The hard part is putting your own time and effort into your own thought process, and walking the walk rather than JUST talking the talk. Now, I agree talking is excellent, but we don’t all need to talk about the same stuff. What do YOU need to talk about in order to move on to the next step of your healing? You don’t need to discuss healthy eating if you already eat awesome- you get what I am saying.
We are not robots, we are people. Our stories are all different, our personalities, our families- all of it, we all have different end results we are looking for, and because of that it’s best for you to decide what you want and work towards it with the help of others that know PMDD.
It used to be that being unique was a quality we looked for, but I have found that especially for Women that have PMDD, we are trying so hard to blend in, our self-esteem is so low, we have beaten ourselves up, we are hiding.
My goal is to help you find that unique quality again! Come out of hiding! PMDD is not your fault and anyone that doesn’t understand it, or still holds any sort of negative stigma towards it, you just smile and move on. It’s like everything in life, you will never make everyone happy, don’t die trying.
You are responsible for your own happiness and once you work on that, accomplish it, and maintain it, it will change your entire family structure. You cannot be responsible for you spouses happiness, but if your PMDD is the cause of the families insanity, you will be working on that too once you work on yourself. *Killing 2 birds with 1 stone theory :)
To me it’s like seeking the help of a nutritionist that is overweight, a male gynecologist, or a therapist that has never had PMDD (or at least a family member that lives with PMDD), it’s hard for me to understand.
To wrap things up, I know I have started to ramble on, but I want to reiterate you have it in you! I know you do, I believe you may need help realizing it, you may need someone to motivate you, keep you challenged, and ask you the ‘right’ questions that will trigger your thinking, but you have it, I know you do!
Give yourself a chance to peek out from behind that curtain– it’s really fun out here, and you know what, if you do come across some close minded individual, you won’t die. I promise. It will actually give you the opportunity to teach one more person out there about PMDD, and if they don’t want to hear it, just keep smiling and move on.
Too much in life to enjoy, don’t miss out!
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